The Method to Breaking up. A Lesson from a Big Sister

This is in response to watching this poor little Bachelorette, who clearly has no brothers or understanding of how boys weasel out of things, have her heart just broken.

As a Big Sister, I have had to be the girl to help the broken hearted girl after my hot brothers were unwilling to accept my method of prevention of anger.
The wake of the pain is too great to ignore.
Especially when a simple understanding and resolve will help things move on nicely.
So, dearest boys, please heed me now.


There is a method that can keep the respect for the time you did share together. Honoring the relationship you did have will set a tone that heals well like a bone set correctly before it is wrapped up in a cast to heal.

So scratch your balls and listen up!

First thing is first ~

Break up BEFORE you cheat! 

 If you can manage this .... you are Golden. 

Leaving is one thing ... cheating is definately another.

Next ~  even in a mutual break up ~ the separation of the bonds will always sting a little.

This is why it is never fun.

Always approach after anger has had a chance to dissipate. A calm mood is easier.
 Prepare for a reaction and allow it. Stay calm in the face of the painful moment of disconnect.

And ~ Be kind
 let them know why you must leave ~
let them know what you gained from them.
Leave them knowing and resolved.
Leave loved.